It’s International EFT Tapping month so I thought what better way to honour it than to share my story and how it’s changed my life.
I was diagnosed with post-natal depression when my youngest was 9 months old. My marriage was on the verge of ending.
4 years later in Aug 2016 I started working with an EFT coach having tried counselling, CBT, various other therapies, and anti-depressants for the 3yrs following my post-natal depression diagnosis.
I’d gone through four of the most challenging years of my life since he was born. By the time I contacted this EFT coach, I was depressed, anxious, stressed, and overwhelmed, and really at a loss as to how to make things better. I’d already tried so many things, but my husband and I were not in a good place at all, and I felt trapped in my business and deeply unhappy, so I was willing to try anything.
Also, my mum had passed away the year before and I was still grieving. There was a lot that I hadn’t processed properly. Not only was I grieving the loss of my mum who I loved dearly and the loss of the boy’s nanny, but I was also grieving for the years I felt I’d lost during my boys first few years of their lives. My mum needed a lot of care, and it was all so consuming. I had a lot of regret and guilt that I wasn’t good enough. That I hadn’t done a good enough job as a mum, daughter or wife and I just kept wishing my life had been different.
I’d also developed health anxiety too. I was convinced I was going to get Alzheimer’s like my mum did.
I was consumed with so much sadness and anger that I couldn’t see the wood for the trees. That was until my first EFT session. I remember feeling sceptical and nervous, I didn’t really know what to expect but I came away from my first session feeling lighter and more hopeful. Over the next few months, I processed my emotions, my feelings and challenged my thoughts and realised how unhelpful they were. I let go of so much that I had been holding on to, much of which I hadn’t even been aware of until I went through this process. I started to look at things in a more positive way. Rather than feeling like a victim and someone who shit things just seemed to happen to, I started to see the lessons in all that I’d experienced and even started feeling grateful for it.
I felt better than I’d felt in a long time. I started getting my confidence back. I started to feel happy again.
I also started seeing how powerful it is to use with kids too. I first used it with my eldest when he was terribly upset about going to school because his teacher had embarrassed him in class just 2 weeks into reception. He was crying one morning in the playground and didn’t want to go in to school. I started tapping on him and he immediately calmed down and was able to go into class.
It was in that moment of helping him, that I knew I wanted to help others.
I threw myself in to training. The following year in 2018 I trained in EFT and the year after that I became an advanced EFT practitioner and Matrix Reimprinting Practitioner having trained with three of the founding masters (only 28 in the world). Since then, I’ve gone on to train as an NLP Practitioner, and a Transformational Coach.
I no longer feel trapped in my business and now have two thriving businesses. My purpose is helping other men and women like me, to break free from their limitations so they can live a happier life that they choose. I work with people internationally over zoom, Teams or face to face. As well as providing 121 and group therapeutic and performance coaching for stressed out employees for corporate companies.
Every day I’m in awe of the impact I get to witness like this:
Panic attacks gone
No more sleeping tablets being taken and sleeping through the night
Feeling at peace with their past
Healed grief that they were stuck in
Healing trauma in two sessions that previous therapy for 2 years was unable to do
Loving their job again after thinking they wanted to leave
Overcoming performance anxiety at work and now feeling super confident
Reduced obsessive compulsive tendencies by 75% (still working with them)
Healing childhood trauma in two sessions that previous therapy was unable to do
Feeling so much love and compassion for themselves instead of shame, guilt, and self-loathing
Better relationships – with themselves, partner, kids, colleagues
Developing healthy habits instead of numbing and avoiding what they’re feeling with alcohol
Nothing makes me happier than the feedback I get from my clients like this:
“Working with Lema was a joy. I immediately felt like I could trust her with my vulnerable side. Her approach is amazing. I have seen unmeasurable results.“
“Working with Lema has allowed me to not only open limiting doors I surround myself with, but to find the keys and open new doors of opportunities.“
“This lady is one amazing woman, she has quite literally changed my life. I was suffering with the worst anxiety I have ever experienced. Lema has changed all of that and I will be eternally grateful.“
“I feel lighter, calmer and more confident in every area of my life. I didn’t think I’d see such a remarkable transformation in such a short amount of time.“
“I finished each session as if a weight had been lifted off my shoulders.“
“Working with Lema has boosted my creativity and enthusiasm for my business and has helped change the energy around showing up for my business every day.“
“Before I started working with Lema, I thought I was going crazy but working with her has completely changed my way of thinking and helped me to feel so much more positive.“
“Working with Lema has completely changed my life.“
“Working with Lema has been a beautiful gift.“
Meanwhile, I continue to work on myself every day. I live and breathe this work. Most people use it in times of crisis, but I believe even more magic happens when you continue to be open minded and curious to what more you can achieve with it. I now live life consciously, I’m more confident and happier than I’ve ever been, and I’m amazed by how far I’ve come already and excited to see what can be achieved in the next few years with the tools I have now.
If you are curious about how EFT and coaching can help you live your best life or know someone who might benefit, please share this, and get touch. You can also refer them to www.eftinternational.org where they will find a list of practitioners around the world to choose from. I’m also on there as one of their Advanced practitioners 😊
Although 50% of the people I work with have never tried any form of therapy or coaching, the other half however have. I’m really passionate about encouraging people to not give up if what you’ve already tried hasn’t worked for you. There are so many reasons as to why that could be. One of my clients had anxiety and it was affecting his work to the point that he questioned whether he wanted to be there anymore. He’d previously had counselling for something that happened 30 years ago. We worked on that issue over a few sessions, and he no longer has anxiety at work. In fact, he’s thriving and happier than he’s felt in a long time.
Humans are meant to be happy, we’re meant to thrive so please don’t settle for anything less than you deserve.
All my love
Lema x
